Everyday Disciple

Be One, Make One.

Foundational Transparency

I was recently asked, “How does your transparency as a leader matter?” As I wrestled with the answer, I concluded that transparency is not just one little component that contributes to healthy leadership, rather it’s a foundational piece. In leadership you assume the responsibility of modeling certain behaviors. Here at RLMT we often state, “The disciple you are, determines the disciples you make.”

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The Disciple-Making Family

Too often, strategy remains in the clouds and never touches the people on the ground. I’m not saying our church strategies are holistically ineffective, but that without proper intentionality and resolve, the impact may never reach the people we are trying to serve. This is the ministry trap that all church leaders must resist; we become so corporate that we lose sight of people in the crowds. If we aren’t careful, I would contend that…

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Vision Casting to Volunteers

When I first came to Bethel, to my surprise, there were people who were interested in getting to know me. At first, I was cautious. I often thought in my mind, “are these people for real?”, “what’s their motive?” Over the next several weeks/months, it became clear

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Father On! How to call younger disciples to a level of greater maturity

“So, I was reading this book by Michael Foster and Dominic Bnonn Tennant called, It’s Good to Be a Man. It was interesting. He said that in Christianity there are something like two generations of literal or functional “clueless bastards.”

I said this quickly because I knew the term I used sounded incredibly derogatory, but the phrase…

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Avoiding the “Fender Bender”

Saturday morning coffee has become a rhythm of life for my daughters and me. The tradition started with my oldest daughter and has now passed to my third and youngest daughter. These dates give my daughters an opportunity to speak, and our time together gives me the valuable privilege to listen.

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Let’s Be More Imitators Than Innovators

Many pastors, leaders and church goers gaze beyond the scriptures to find ideas or strategies to make disciples. Why? What seems to be celebrated or gaining the most attention by the church are those with the most innovative ideas. Over 23 years of ministry I often see the momentum of the collective church body shift to a new curriculum or model of ministry.

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Communication is Key

The radio kept breaking up – “this is not good” I’m thinking to myself. We had been discovered by a lone NVA (North Vietnamese Army) soldier, who had stepped off the trail to relieve himself. We were well camouflaged, but a brief radio crackle alerted him to our presence.

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How Do Intentional Leaders Look for the NEXT Disciple?

Recently, a small group leader asked, “How do I know who I am supposed to disciple?”. I happened to be in a room where there were multiple group leaders and experienced disciple makers, so I asked… “What do you guys think?” As we discussed the question, more questions arose. But a theme also to emerge.

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Relational Grit Leads to Unity

My friend and I sat down together on my back porch. We had a situation that created some serious tension, mostly on my part. I was angry. I didn’t agree with what happened and was really struggling with it. Gratefully, both of believe in fighting for relationship and being in unity with each other.

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Holding Fast and Building Healthy Culture

“It’s not what we do but who we are”. This phrase has become a common cry by many of us in the Relational Discipleship Network. Wow! The last year challenged this statement in my life. Relationships and areas of my life that once were simple are now complicated. It seems with every 30 days we face new cultural and biblical challenges.

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Why Chasing People Who Run from Relationship is Hard

Just about every news cycle shows people on a college campus, city hall, and even at the U.S. Capitol yelling at each other. There is no curiosity to investigate the real facts; it is usually driven by emotion and a sense of self-righteousness. There is no relationship or willingness to listen to another viewpoint.

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The Value of Connectedness

I remember the day my wife and I met with the pastor of the church we were attending. I asked for an appointment to speak with him, knowing I had this longing in my heart for “more”. More of “what” I didn’t really know. I just knew at that time, discipleship in my life was nonexistent. So, I asked him if “there was more to this walk with Jesus?” He replied, “Nope. Just keep coming to church on Sundays” while he was simultaneously checking his watch every couple of minutes, like he had something better to do.

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